TALK ABOUT IT is a segment of my blog that raises
sensitive issues such as dating, marriage, divorce, real life situations and
societal ills. Topics/situations would be raised everyday on the blog, so it’s a
ground for exchange of opinions. The bottom-line is to make suggestions that would help others live a
better and happy life. WE ALL DESERVE TO BE HAPPY.
So Let’s talk about, MARRIAGE...Is
LOVE enough to sustain it?
The rate at which news about
divorce flies these days is so scary; it seems lipstick lasts better than some
marriages. The divorce statistics is not encouraging.
I don’t think a Saturday goes by in Nigeria
without a wedding ceremony. So much is put in place for these events to happen especially
finance and a high level of stress. Some couples end up not even enjoying their wedding. So much tension, pressure takes over and some end up becoming ‘groomzillas’ & ‘bridezilla'.
After going through putting up a big event,
inviting guests from far and wide, sharing ‘ASO-EBI’; under the sun or in the
rain, the next thing is ‘DIVORCE’.
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What happened to the ‘happily ever after’, ‘till
death do us part'; then comes the reason, ‘Irreconcilable
Differences’....some big grammatical phrase that wraps up a world of aggrievances.
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| Once upon a time, it was: ‘ I love you Boo’; ‘You are my life’; ‘I can’t do without you’; ‘if it’s not you, it’s no one else’. |
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suddenly it transforms into hurtful words: ‘I detest your presence’; ‘I regret the day I met you’; ‘You are the worst thing that ever happened to me’.
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I look at my parents and I wonder
how they have coped with each other for over 35 years; I feel encouraged. Some
couples have gone over 40, 50 years together and some are still counting. So it
seems possible, it’s encouraging. But I realise again that things are not the same as they were in their time, it's a whole new world when it comes to this present generation.
So back to the big question: Is
LOVE enough to sustain MARRIAGE till death do you part?
Well love should be enough seeing that love is a combination of understanding,trust,acceptance,tolerance and the list goes on. i think nowadays most people forget the for better for worse part.but hey, it has worked in the past it can still work now.
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ReplyDeleteWell it all depends on wat pple want wen they tie the knot. For some pple; it's Love, for some; it money or that marital status etc. Whateva the reason, determines wat sustains the marriage. Some of our parents dint get married bcos of love, they did it cos their parents felt it was time for them to get married thus matchmaked them wit the available suitor. All they did was just manage all for the sake of their kids and the society jeopardizin their hapiness and right to love. But wit civilization in play, pple now have the opportunity to make decisions on their own witout pple or society tryin to force them to live wit wat will bring to their doom. Most of these marriages 2day are nt joined by God that's y u see them crumblin... The Foundation of evry marriage is key. So wateva pple go into marrtiage for, sustains it( it cud be love, or otherwise). I rest ma case... Tanx for ur time if u read dis #smiles#
ReplyDelete2 words summarise love- self giving. And that's all that matters...everyoda trait, virtue, tendency that is a recipe for a successful marriage is a function of love...a function of self-giving...that's what love is,
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